Will You Forgive Me?

Well, first of all, I truly am asking all my blogger fans for their forgiveness, as it has been a long time since I've had a chance to share my thoughts. But apart from my shortcomings, there is something to be said of these four simple words. I have been told "I'm sorry" by a number of people throughout the years, but it still does not have the same effect than that of it's counterpart "Will you forgive me?" I believe it rings true because this phrase demands a heartfelt response whereas the other can be shrugged off without no regard for true forgiveness to actually take place. I also believe that the very nature of forgiveness and our ability to forgive flows downward from a divine God. Although we may never forget a transgression or two, the ability to forgive is represented throughout history and has become a symbol all around the world, known simply to most as .... the cross! So, is forgiveness is important? Absolutely! Is it something that can be exercised in our lives? Yes, on a daily basis, if I'm not mistaken.

The sting behind compliments

Growing up, I remember hearing the saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say nothing at all". Believe it or not, I do try to take this into account when shelling out praises about others. I'm the type of guy that will take the time to let the waitress know that she has done a great job while eating at a restaurant. I believe that in a cynical world, more of this type of proactive behavior is necessary, as long as it is genuine and from the heart. On the flipside of things, whenever somebody speaks highly of us, it is very important that we don't let it get to our heads. The sting behind compliments, is that it can create a destructive pride within. I wonder how many narcissistic people were created due to the significant amount of recognition given to them from well intentioned admirers. Of course, this shouldn't stop us from giving genuine praise but the receiver should be aware of it's effects. Dale Carnegie, in his book titled, How to Win Friends and Influence People, suggests that "We should be hearty in our approbation and lavish in our praise". I couldn't have said it better!

Teamwork!

It never ceases to amaze me how many people try to do things on their own without asking for help. I often think that if it was meant to be that way, God wouldn't have invented wives or other people for that matter. In fact, the simple reason that I blog, is not just for my own enjoyment but to truly demonstrate some sort of teamwork through words of encouragement. Certainly, one can shoot a few hoops by themselves but the exciting and challenging part of the game, would be lost forever. The fact of the matter is, we need each other to grow, to challenge, and to support us in most endeavors. Teamwork is essential at home, at work and at play. Proverbs 11:14 suggests this when it reads "For lack of guidance a nation falls, but many advisers make victory sure". Ya see, exercising the use of gifts from other talented people in our lives is as necessary as waking up in the morning. If you want to experience true success, then make it your goal to establish a teamwork attitude and place the proper people within your circle of influence.

What kind of friend are you?

Everyone at one time or another is confronted with the question, "who really are my friends"?  Some people have improper motives for assuming the position of friendship. Others, are not even in the category of "friends" but more like acquaintances. The best way to describe a friend is someone who will be there whenever you need them. Now, I'm not sold on this definition but it certainly holds some value. I once heard of a quote that said "If you have 52 friends, it would be equivalent to a party per week". Do you feel your friends measure up to that? Here's a few truths about me: 1. I think I'm a nice guy. 2. I enjoy laughing and making others laugh. 3. Pretty consistent. Even in saying all of this, I'm not so sure I would equate myself to a "party per week". However, I'm sure there are some people that would argue that about me but that's just because they have no other friends. (haha) The scripture defines friendship in Proverbs 18:24 "There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother". Can you say that about your friends? More importantly, can they say this about you?

To be or not to be...offended

Are you the type of person that always looks to get offended? If not, perhaps you know of someone who cannot handle even the slightest critique. I am in no way insinuating that true offenses don't occur but on the other hand, I feel that our culture has become extremely thin skinned. I have to say that although I don't enjoy being criticized over certain areas in my life, I do welcome constructive criticism when given from someone that has my best interests at heart. The reality is, that when truth is spoken in love, we should always be open to receive it in good faith. If we are honest with ourselves, we will recognize that pride tends to keep us from having a teachable spirit, suggesting that we can do everything on our own. Simply put, in many of the things we say and do, having another set of watchful eyes may be all that is needed. By saying this, we should welcome the thoughts and opinions of others as these are the very things that may strengthen our character and add value to our lives. Do yourself a favor, the next time someone gives you an open rebuke, don't be so quick to brush them off as being judgemental for they may have some validity to their claim. Proverbs 1:1-7 "A wise man takes heed to instruction but the fool despises correction".

I deliver on Fairrington

Recently, I was given the opportunity to interview at a company that would put most organizations to shame. It truly was one of the most genuine experiences that I have had in my many years of employment. Although, I am not sure whether or not I will get the call back, my faith is restored in the fine art of capitalism because of the leadership skills I've encountered along the way. It is the first time that I have actually spoken the words "This place is doing it right". What I mean by this, is that, the interview process was more about my character and who I am as a person versus the description of the job details. I felt as though they understood that if a person has a strong, solid character, then the work ethic along with a positive attitude will follow. In essence, this will ultimately bring about the success that is desired. This is an excellent business strategy because most competitors tend to focus more on the processes and how they can make them more efficient whereas Fairrington recognizes that the processes among competitors are quite similar but the way to win a sustainable competitive advantage is through investing in their people. I'm reminded of a popular TV program called Undercover Boss whereas the officers of the company step down from their lofty positions to gain a better understanding of the operations within the company. Upon completion, they recognize that it's the people in their organization that truly contribute to the company's success. Now, I am hopeful to gain employment at this praiseworthy establishment, but if not, it does my heart good to know that people are once again investing in their greatest assets. My hats off to you Fairrington, you truly do deliver!

Pushing Through

Ya know, just last week I was announced the Biggest Loser at my church's weight loss challenge. Although it was exciting to win, not so sure I feel the same about the new title I've received. The thing that I can take away from this experience is that life offers many challenges and depending upon whether or not we have the ability to push through some of them, may determine our final outcome. My kids inspire me to take on crazy challenges such as this one because I want to teach them the value of hard work, no matter what circumstances they may face in this life. Having been around for close to 40 years, I understand that life isn't always a bowl of cherries. Therefore, it is essential for all of us at one time or another to utilize the gifts that God has given us to perservere through the many trials along the way. Words that I have come to respect are those such as: Fortitude, Drive, Perserverance, Focus, Determination, Success. Often times these words are neglected in our day to day living but if you plan on winning at anything, these words will definitely be important ingredients to push you through towards achieving your goals. 1 Corinthians 9:24 "Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one get the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize".

Deacon Smeacon

A few hours ago, I was elected to serve as deacon at my home church. Although it took me 25 years to fill this position, the honor of serving God has always been there for me. I live in a great country where I can celebrate the name of Christ on a daily basis without the persecution of most. It is a privilege to serve in a greater capacity as I owe my very life to God for all that He has done for my family and I. My hope and my prayer is that I will continue to look outside myself and render my services with a heart of compassion, viewing, most often, through the lens of God. My desire is to make my life count for something good. For those who are uncertain, let me just tell ya, God is good! It is an ambition of mine to help the helpless, provide for the needy and to inspire people through the gifts that God has given me. There are plenty of people that attend church to warm up a pew or simply play church. To those people, I would say, don't waste your time, God doesn't need the spare change. As harsh as that may seem, it's a reality. Don't accept this mentality but challenge yourself to step out of the boat and serve an Almighty God. Now, to be honest, the title of "deacon" doesn't mean much to me, but the ability to honor my Father in Heaven, is a humbling experience to say the least and I graciously accept this opportunity. Remembering, "Job well done, good and faithful servant" are words to live by.

Stuff

According to my insurance agent, I have coverage on personal property worth over $153,000. Now, whether or not this is the replacement value or not, I can assure you that this number is highly exaggerated. Rest assure, if I had this type of money in possessions, I would sell them all and payoff my house. When asked to see if I could lower this coverage to a more subtle number such as $20,000, I was told that they base this amount as a percentage of my dwelling costs. My point is, does any of this really matter? When I wake up each day, my heart and mind immediately go to give thanks for the free stuff in my life such as my wife, my kids, good friends, health, air, etc. I would like to think that I've learned a few things over the years and that material items are not as high-up on the list, as they used to be. Could I help a friend in need or serve in a greater capacity? How can I make a positive impact in the lives of my children? What role do I play, if any, in my community? How can I be a better husband? This list goes on and on. Quite honestly, I feel that most of us speak of these same things but never quite make the transition from talk to walk. The famous quote says "You can't take the stuff with ya", certainly tells the story, doesn't it? My hope for my life and yours, would be to influence those around you in the most excellent and positive way. This may not be God's will for your life in totality, but it sure serves a purpose, outside of yourself. From now on, wake up and say "It's just sttuff" and make your move to help change lives that are within your grasp!

Working Marriages

Married couples all across the U.S. feel that it is necessary to have two incomes in order to stay afloat. In some cases this may or may not be true. However, this is not the type of work that I am referring to from the title above. What I mean to say is that in order to have or to develop a healthy marriage, it requires a lot more than just paying the bills. The equation is this: MARRIAGE = WORK. Now, although the equation seems simple, the WORK portion is not. Having been married for 18 years, my wife and I are well versed on the many challenges that pose a threat to our relationship. It would be a lie to suggest that most marriages don't experience similar problems. Truth be told, marriage can be taxing on even the nicest of couples but those who are willing to WORK through the many trials encountered along the way, will benefit beyond measure. Although, I can shout from the rooftop about the many blessings I have received while being married to my beautiful bride, it wasn't always so peachy. There are many distractions, obstacles, and sure madness that have come our way throughout the years. By the grace of God, we were able to manage and WORK through them. As tough as it was back then, we are eternally grateful for sticking it out, for better or for worse. Remember this, good friends will help you push through and tell you not to give up. My wife and I have many and the popular "light at the end of tunnel" saying, shall arrive!

Who made you judge?

Whenever I hear people talking bad about others, I immediately reflect upon my own shortcomings. Certainly, we all have, at one time or another spoken negatively towards friends, family, coworkers, etc. This, in and of itself, demonstrates our inability to lead a perfect life, yet, we continue to bad mouth our neighbors. As I reflect upon the many wrongdoings that I have committed, I am forced to recognize, that I too, am no better than the person standing next to me. In other words, who am I to judge? Having made many mistakes in the past, I began to practice finding the good in people and avoid accusing and judging them for their flaws. I find this to be a better way of living my life, by avoiding all of the unnecessary gossip, that quite honestly, serves no purpose. Won't you join me in practicing a mercy filled lifestyle instead of passing judgement on others? Jesus himself, said "He who is without sin, cast the first stone?" Any takers?

You're all Hypocrites!

Ya know, it never ceases to amaze me when I hear people speak about others being labeled as hypocrites. The fact of the matter is, there is not one single individual on the face of this earth that isn't a hypocrite at one time or another. We set standards for ourselves on which to live by and then fail miserably. Yet, if someone else fails to live up to their expectations, we are quick to judge and point the fiinger, proclaiming loudly "HYPOCRITE". I  would suggest a bit of advice to those people, and that is, be slow to speak, slow to become angry, and quick to love others. You might be surprised to see how grace extended to those so- called "HYPOCRITES" might actuallly help them overcome their failures. Truth be told, none of us are perfect and could certainly use a shoulder to lean on, instead of being judged for our mistakes.

Evil Money?

Often times I will hear people misquote a popular passage of scripture by making the statement that "Money is the root of all evil". I have heard it spoken so many times, that in part, I began to believe it myself. Having images of creepy, green paper presidents, chasing me down the road with menacing grins on their face as they plot corruptive activities against my small, yet empty wallet. It's a vision I wish on no man. However, there is something that needs to be clarified here. The scripture actually says that it is the "Love of money that is a root of all kinds of evil" (1 Timothy 6:10). In saying this, the meaning becomes something completely different. Money is not the issue but rather the lust or the love for money. Simply put, it is a matter of the heart. I once heard someone suggest that "Money is good, if it is in your hands, because you can give it away but that it only becomes bad (evil) when it is in your heart". A wise pastor once said "it's important for money to serve you and not get caught up in you serving it. Do you see the difference?